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Night time me was an asshole
I needed that glass of wine to unwind after my hard day. The irony is that it was a tough day because of all of the wine that I had the night before. I was stuck on this hamster wheel.
I wanted a "Beam Me Up, Scotty" option. If someone had offered me a pill, or a mantra, or told me that jumping up and down on one leg would help, I would have tried it. Ok, I did try some of these things.
I just wanted to be there. To be in a place where night time me wasn't an a$$hole.
Pick your hard
"If you do not change direction, you may end up where you are heading" Lao Tzu
I hate it when people say, it is actually easier to drink/eat less. The logic is that there is less physical exertion, you don't spend as much money or time planning. Blah. Blah. Blah.
I can see the logic of it now, begrudgingly. But at the time, this felt like a platitude. Not helpful.
For me, the hardest part of drinking less was unlearning the drink = fun equation.
The carrot versus the stick
9:57 AM
I am a big believer in using the carrot versus the stick when incenting a new behavior.
Pause and think about the carrot and stick metaphor. It dates back to a mid-1800s caricature of a donkey race. The losing jokey is frantically whipping his donkey to urge it forward, meanwhile the relaxed winner dangles a carrot in front of his steed.
Some people respond well to the whip. Not me. I am like water in that way. I go for the path of least resistance. This means making it as attractive as possible.
Everyone is nodding along right now.
Because waking up with out a hangover is attractive, but.....so is that third glass….
Alcohol is not the duct tape
Alcohol does not make us more connected, it actually disconnects us when it is playing the central role. When it is not the focus, then your attention can be on your friends and you will remember what they said the next day. That is how we connect. That is more meaningful than commiserating over the shared hangover.