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Do you have your own internal mean girl?
Women especially are taught to take care of ourselves .... so that we can take care of others.
I am guilty of this.
Because now I see that, when I used it for myself, it was always coming from a place of lack.
Never being quite good enough.
I think that is how my own personal "mean girl" fueled her power. I accepted her negativity and put downs in the spirit of "I should be doing better."
Given my internal dialogue, it is no wonder I was drawn to numbing behaviors. Drinking helped temporarily escape that bitch.
How to quit quitting for the last time
If you want to quit quitting, then adopt the mindset of the potty training parent.
They will be frustrated along the way, but even if they are tempted to, they never quit trying because they know that eventually their child is going to figure it out. That child will not be in diapers forever.
How would things be different for you if you believed with 100% certainty that you will regain control over alcohol?
Odds are that you wouldn't need to quit quitting. You would get up, dust yourself off, learn what you can and keep moving forward. That is the way to do it.
This is why belief is so important, it keeps you moving forward.
Do you have 2 min to significantly increase your ability to drink less?
Do you have two minutes to set yourself up for success with drinking less? Write down what you are going to drink, visualize it and plan for it. Automate this habit and you will be amazed at the payoff.
When life is rough
How much time do you spend actively pointing your brain towards what is going right in your life? Cultivating this practice can make a huge difference in your quest to drink less.
The single biggest reason that your attempts to drink less have failed
If you want to plan for success in drinking less, you need to plan for failure. People want to skip this step but it is critical. You will mess up, so have a plan. Turn to this with curiosity not with self judgement. It will make you so much stronger in the end.
Note to self- light switches don’t work in a power outage
We had a big storm last weekend and were out of power for three days. The absence of modern conveniences in the middle of a hot July was not lost on me. I knew that we didn’t have power. And yet, every time I walked into a room, I flipped on the light switch.
Every. Single. Time. For approximately 72 hours.
And every single time, I thought to myself “I know better.”
Sure my conscious mind knew it, but turning on a light switch when I enter a dark room is a subconscious response.
When I first started on my journey to stop overdrinking, I would “find” myself reflexively pouring a drink when I got home from work, or if I had a stressful conversation with someone.
These were cues to my brain that it was time to drink. Just like walking into a dark room was a cue to turn on the light.