Your relationship with alcohol
You probably love it at 7PM on Friday and hate it at 3AM Saturday morning when you are beating yourself up for drinking too much.
We often use alcohol to smooth over the areas of our life that we don't like.
The job, or more likely the boss, or the kids fighting, or nonstop Thomas the Tank Engine, or the packrat husband, or the interfering in-laws, or your mother.
In the moment, it feels like that first glass will make it all go away.
But you know that none of it actually goes away.
Your inner knowing is onto yourself. It is that little nudge that says, "something is not quite right."
But she keeps getting "shushed" when you turn to a drink.
And then you use turning to a drink as a reason to beat yourself up, reinforcing the need to want to drink to escape that too.
Hamster Wheel
The way off this hamster wheel is to start liking yourself.
You may think that these things are not related, but I guarantee that they are.
Once you like and trust yourself, then you naturally take care of yourself. You truly appreciate yourself and want the best for yourself. You let the other people in your life keep their own drama and don't feel the need to engage. You become your own best cheerleader and care for yourself like you do your child.
Getting started down this route isn't complicated. It means shaking loose some patterned negative thought patterns about yourself.
I think that my coach did it best when she asked the following:
Who or what is the self when you say "myself?"
Often answers are a mixture of humanity and divinity - the physical and the spiritual that we truly are.
The next question is what stopped me in my tracks.
What is it that you don't, or can't, seem to love about your self, when you acknowledge that your self is not your actions or inactions that you don't approve of, but rather something that transcends our opinions, our history, or our socialization?
Journal about these questions for yourself and see what comes up for you. Does it make you consider that maybe you were wrong about not trusting or loving yourself?
Notice what opening up to that possibility does for you today. And if you want to share, just hit reply because I love to hear progress from my readers.
This is some of the most powerful work that I do with my clients in my Drink Less Live More Program.
Yes, of course I work with my clients to help them learn how to Drink Less, but what is equally important is the part where they learn how to Live More. And that involves discovering and then dismantling a lot of the painful beliefs that they accept because they have just thought them over and over again.
If this resonates with you, listen to your inner knowing and schedule a consult with me today HERE. We will figure out if my program is a good fit for you. And even if not, it is not wasted time because I will provide you with some recommendations on where to get some additional support.
Take care,
Caroline
PS- I am accepting new 1:1 clients for my 12-week Drink Less, Live More program. Are you bummed that your New Year's Resolution is long gone, and you know that if you keep doing it on your own you will continue struggling with drinking more than you would like? Just hit reply and let's chat.
PPS - Did you know that you might be able to use your FSA/HSA $ for coaching? Check with your insurance company! As of Jan 1, 2020, under the Category III Current Procedural Terminology (CPT) Codes approved by the AMA, health and wellness coaching may be eligible for medial reimbursement with certain types of insurance.
