Believing our thoughts are true
We all grow up thinking that we believe things because they are true.
This is great when we have beliefs like:
I love and accept myself
I can figure anything out
I create my own safety
no one can hurt my feelings (because my thoughts create my feelings.)
I have the perfect amount of (time/money) to do everything that I want
But more often than not, the thoughts that we think are more along the lines of:
I don't believe that I can do it
I don't believe that I will be happy when I cut back on my drinking
I need to drink to
get myself through this phase
relax
sleep
And when we believe that these thoughts are true, we remain stuck.
It is like painting yourself in the corner.
If you believe that you need a drink to sleep, you might be able to use willpower for a little bit, but eventually you are going to cave in and drink.
Your primitive brain will tell you that it is worse to not sleep than it is to have a drink. And since you believe that this is true, of course you are going to drink.
The only way out of this is to start questioning the underlying beliefs and learn how to unbelieve them.
In order to change your relationship with drinking, you have to start thinking differently.
In the beginning it might feel like you are lying to yourself or being delusional, but you aren't.
Because "truth" is fluid.
Our society has believed things for any number of reasons that have nothing to do with them being true.
-There are people who believe that the Earth is flat.
-Just drop the COVID-19 vaccine discussion bomb out there in social media and you will see that people have radically different views on what is true.
There are millions of examples like this that help to loosen your hold on what is true.
Remember, you only need to do this when you are not getting the results that you want. If you love everything in your life, keep doing what you are doing. (And maybe write a book!)
However, if you don't like
being overserved
hangovers
turning to wine when you feel stressed out
The way to stop doing this is to be willing to investigate your beliefs.
When you challenge the foundational beliefs, the house of cards crumbles.
This is how you change your relationship with drinking.
Sometimes these underlying beliefs are hard to see because they are so ingrained.
This is where working with a coach is so helpful. A coach doesn't have your ingrained beliefs and can help you see what to work on. Because we all have blind spots. A coach acts as a mirror to help you see them better.
I help women get rid of the shitty parts of drinking in 12 weeks.
If you have tried other things and nothing has worked, and you are willing to challenge your own status quo thinking, then this program will work for you. We will work together privately to identify exactly what it is that is keeping you stuck and unwind it.
